So how do you let go? Especially when every fiber of your being is telling you to hold on?
Here’s what you do:
1. Surrender all that you think you MUST have in order to be happy
Start surrendering by declaring the following to yourself, the God within you: “If it costs me my peace, it’s too expensive. I don’t know how to let go but I’m willing to release this. I’m willing to let go, I’m willing to set myself free. Just show me how; please show me the way” let the Universe work on you, for you and in you.
2. Focus on your Core Desired Feelings (CDFs), not your Core Desired Results
That’s what Buddha’s teachings are all about: Don’t get attached to anything. Yes, want what you want. But get to the bottom of why you really want that thing or person or experience. You want it because of how it’s going to make you feel. Shortcut the process by going for the feeling and basking in the feeling. The results will come on their own.
3. Declare your worthiness by stopping all coerced action
Just stop ‘trying’ to make stuff happen. Stop ‘fighting’ to make things work. Stop ‘resisting.’ Let go of the need to convince, ‘make happen’ and sway. The Universe has your back. Let the Universe do its job. You do your job: wanting, trusting, knowing, living joyfully in the know and in the now, in appreciation for this amazing life you have, for every breath you take. You’ve got so much to be grateful for that you really don’t have time to plan how you’re going to ‘make things work.’ Put your effort and action where it belongs: on taking care of, loving, appreciating, and being yourself.
4. Love what’s left so hard that you stop feeling the loss of it
You know the quickest way to let go of someone or something? Love that person or thing with such depth, such power and such passion that you get so caught up in the act of loving and being love that you forget that the person or thing is gone, and that all attachment to it gets dissolved with the fire of love. At that moment, one of two things will happen: 1) that thing or person will come back or 2) you’ll be so full of love you’ll no longer need them to be in your life.
At the end of the day, the truth about letting go comes down to the following:
If it isn’t flowing, if it isn’t effortless, if you have to force it, just leave it, just let it go.